Understanding these dynamic forces is the key to learning to love all the intensity you generate. Gah □ When they like me more I seem to be looking around for a better model, when I like them more I’m pathetically doing desperate feminine wheedling and sulking.If you’ve got Venus’ seductiveness combined with Pluto’s brooding intensity you’ve got an intense sexual magnetism that keeps your life eventful and maybe even chaotic. I do find something to get very resentful of in the people I attract even as I like them. I have Venus opposition Mars so I tend to play out anger and push pull even with people who have a harmonious Venus Mars. You should listen to Richard Pryor Craps After Hours… that’s a favorite of mine. But I have trouble compromising or doing things I don’t want to do… I got physically sick being asked to watch football games or hang out with fratty guys :/ I also fight people when I stay with them for too long. It’s weird about the resentment thing… it’s just this huge stereotype of the whole naggy unsexy relationship… Love, New Girl, all the series I watch either play it out or promise to. I find that part of the friction is that people don’t like or want the same things and have the same habits. I also end up on stuff like taketheredpill reddit sometimes which i shouldnt. When men explain things like this or talk about it among themselves they have a quiet logic. I see married men of all ages with no pictures of their wives on facebook or checking out girls 23 and younger. I dont know which end of my ass is up, i used to think familiarity bred contempt and the melding of people is destabilizing. I was surprised how people on here say totally different things than the funny shows or sitcoms i watch (which obv thrive on conflict) or stand up or romantic comedies.Ĭomedy comes from so much pain and honesty. Only this website bullish is about relationships. I was always flooded with comedy that was very negative about relationships (Chris Rock, Louie, pretty much anyone…) and tonight also saw some depressing stand up. Significantly, so many of our popular comedians have capricorn moons or virgo influence. Iĭid you watch the new Chris D’Elia special where he talks about love or something that you brought this up? □ he talks about how love is resentment and discomfort to balance out what would be too much joy. SFS… saw your comment thread about resentment in relationships. Acceptance ends the plague of insecurities you are always already enough. The question is not, ‘when will I be good enough for you,’ it is ‘when will I be good enough for myself?’. Repression may take you to the end of your rope here – avoid tearful, dramatic scenes where you demand of your partner the validation you refuse to give yourself. We must remember that this bottling-up ultimately only magnifies the unwanted feelings. If you push the expression down, refuse to feel the things you don’t want to feel – the anxiety, fear, unworthiness all gets projected outward, onto your partner and our environment. They may find a particularly forceful expression now, either externally or internally. These insecurities may bubble up to the surface at this time as well. On the other hand, you may have been lying to yourself or your partner about what it is you want from the relationship. Do you feel like you give and give and receive little in return? It’s time to look at the root motivation. If you overextend yourself to satisfy your partner, out of any fear that what you’re naturally capable of isn’t enough or lovable, this tension and doubt may easily turn to resentment. Any artifice in a relationship’s exchange – false ideas of what’s being given and taken – will re-emerge. Elsa calls Venus- Pluto contacts ‘corpse alerts’ to signify the resurrection of past relationship partners (whatever those relationships may have been), but for some of us it can also signify the resurrection of doubts and insecurities in a current partnership.
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